Trust?

"It's good to trust others but, not to do so is much better." -Benito Mussolini 

I wouldn't say I have trust issues, I have just experienced life. High school was one thing but life here in the freshmen dorms has really put the idea of trust to the test. While I have only been on campus for a short amount of time, I have seen so much. Some people just don't give a fuck, and others don't even realize what they are doing. The one's that don't give a fuck are the one's that are easily noticed, at least by people who actually question the validity of their words and actions. It's the ones who don't know what they are doing that tend to be the dangerous ones. I came into Defiance with a plan to figure out myself and get to know others for the first semester. This was one of the best things I could have done. Mostly because the people who seemed like the ones you could trust turned out not to be so. Trust covers a wide range of things. Whether its personal relations, or just trusting people to come into your room and expecting them not to steal your shit. In my experiences trust should be earned not just given.

"You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough." -Frank Crane

To not trust, is to not feel comfort. Although trusting people can seem to lead to inevitable heart break, it is much worse than never trusting anybody at all. Trust is what creates some of the most beautiful things this life has to offer and to to never let anyone, to not trust, is cutting yourself off from the things that make this life livable. Being married one day, to having children, to even the best friendships that go beyond blood. All of these things are based off of trust. Off of having the strength to trust that they wont do wrong by you. Of course these things are tested, especially in early trials of friendships, but the ones that are worth keeping around, the ones that will go beyond taking a bullet for you, are worth all of the prior heart ache and pain. Not opening yourself to anybody will lead to your demise. With holding yourself from others due to the pain someone else caused isn't fair. It's a cop out. I'm not saying to let everyone into your life or to open yourself to everyone because not everyone is meant to be your best friend. What I am saying is be open to it, be aware of what you say and do with people, give people a shot. No ones perfect by any means, hell, not even close. But whats a life without having at least one person who's down for you no matter what. Who loves you passed all your flaws and imperfection. To abstain from trust to abstain from the best things human nature have to offer. Love and be loved, trust and be trusted.